A Woman in Love by Wendy Jarrold
We were blessed to have a guest speaker at our Women’s Luncheon yesterday. Wendy Jarrold is Pastor Vaughn Jarrold’s wife. For seven years they have been ministering at the Kingston Vineyard Church. They’ve been watching the area churches growing stronger, building the Kingdom of God. Vineyard is seeking to be a multi-cultural, multi-ethnic church.
From attending the Kingston Revival at their church I can see they have a dynamic youth group, wonderful members, and the church is on fire for the Lord. God is definitely moving in their church and they are a blessing.
We began by reading Titus 2:1-5 But as for you, speak the things which are proper for sound doctrine: that the older men be sober, reverent, temperate, sound in faith, in love, in patience; the older women likewise, that they be reverent in behavior, not slanderers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things— that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed.
Wendy told us, when she was 19-years-old, she was fed up with her life in England. Her parents were divorced and her father was in South Africa. He offered her the opportunity to join him in South Africa so she took a boat to join him. During that cruise, Wendy met her husband, Vaughn. She said when you fall in love at first it is fluffy and bubbly, but that fades away and then it is love or boring. They chose love.
Life with Jesus is NOT boring! Jesus wants to restore us to our first love.
After she and Vaughn married, they traveled to many countries, and saw first hand: poverty and man’s inhumanity to man. Wendy began to question her existence, asking, why am I here? What is the purpose of it all? Her husband was saved, and then after a time she was saved.
It was at this point they went to the United States and in the 70’s hitchhiked across the country – they did not have much money. We cannot hitchhike like that today, but in the 70’s the atmosphere was different. God had given them the idea to do this, and when God gives us an idea we do not look at it circumstantially – i.e. we don’t have enough money, we don’t know what He wants us to do, we don’t have the exact plan. We need to know when God tells us to do something, He will provide a way, and we may not see how He is going to do it.
People would give her and Vaughn lifts, put them up in their houses, and be kind to them. This restored Wendy’s faith in fellowmen and it opened up her heart to see that God is real. The culmination was when she was watching Jesus of Nazareth on TV, and the crucifixion hit her. She told us she wept her way into salvation. Since then she has served the Lord together with her husband. They have served wherever God sent them. She told us that, since she was a child of divorce, she purposed to make her marriage the best, to be faithful and follow her husband. She made her life like a blank slate and followed her husband, trusting the direction her husband was going. As time went by God gave her her own dreams and visions.
A woman in love is a woman who is loved. To love like that you have to feel the love from Jesus. Ruth told Naomi Ruth 1:16b Entreat me not to leave you, or to turn back from following after you; for wherever you go, I will go; and wherever you lodge, I will lodge; your people shall be my people, and your God, my God.
God is faithful if you stand believing. Pray for your husband. At times Wendy told us that she had to back off and not state her opinion, but wait. She learned to serve her husband the food he likes, and show him acts of love. Often, it is not what you say but what you do. More can be done with loving acts than lectures.
After she was saved, she and Vaughn were called to go to Israel, to Jerusalem to Mount Zion Fellowship. There under one of the Sisters, they attended Bible school and learned the things of the Spirit. They developed in the areas of ministry and hospitality, for they would take visitors around and house them when they came through the school. Wendy told us it was like a boot camp, and that when you get saved you need structure and discipline to develop.
Acts 9:3-6 As he journeyed he came near Damascus, and suddenly a light shone around him from heaven. Then he fell to the ground, and heard a voice saying to him, “Saul, Saul, why are you persecuting Me?” And he said, “Who are You, Lord?” Then the Lord said, “I am Jesus, whom you are persecuting. It is hard for you to kick against the goads.” So he, trembling and astonished, said, “Lord, what do You want me to do?”
These are questions we need to ask God in our walk in life. “Who are you Lord?” And “Lord, what do you want me to do?”. We have a loving, Heavenly Father, Creator, God, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit. Ask the Lord, “What do you want me to do?” He wants His Presence in our lives. Find out who Jesus is. Our steps of faith begin to open up this to us, water baptism, the baptism of the Holy Spirit, studying His Word will begin to help us to find out who He is. Salvation is like coming into the front door of the house and standing on the welcome mat. But there is more to find out about God, there are other rooms to explore. We can begin to find out about the gifts of the Holy Spirit and the freedom we can have in Jesus.
We want to be a carrier of the light, to be filled to overflowing, to be a witness. It isn’t enough to just worship on Sunday. We want to tell people God loves them, and that takes boldness to share and be a witness. To go up to a teller in the store and tell them that Jesus loves them, to speak to unsaved neighbors. We want to take God’s light to the uttermost. To love family and children, to love those who are not loveable. To take His light to the unsaved loved ones and also to the unloved saved ones. We are to honor our father and mother and our spiritual fathers and mothers. We are promised in the Scripture 70 years and a few more years if we are good to our parents.
Wendy then spoke a bit about children, reminding us we don’t own our children. When they are little you can get them to do what you want them to do, but as they get older, you need to give them space. When they are little we dedicate our children to God, and that means we give them to God to guide and direct their lives. Wendy has three daughters and two sons. She prays God sends angels to protect her children and that God provides a hedge of protection.
Every child is a blessing, even if they seem to be a drag at the time. For a period, Wendy had to take care of her house and children, and was wondering why it seemed to be stopping her ministry until God showed her that, at that particular time, her children were her ministry, for she needed to train them up in the Lord. The Holy Spirit told Wendy He had given her these children and she was to be a mom, training them, a teacher, and sharing Godly wisdom with them.
Psalm 128:3 Your wife shall be like a fruitful vine in the very heart of your house, your children like olive plants all around your table.
So the wife is like a fruitful vine and the children like olive plants. Sometimes olive plants need to be pruned to become productive and fruitful. We prune our children lovingly with God’s help.
Motherhood does not always come naturally although many women think so. We need to pray and ask God how He wants us to work with our children.
Older women should be teaching younger women in the church, mentoring the younger women. So often rookie moms get together and share notes, but they are all young moms without experience, and they could benefit from older mom’s advice.
Wendy told us we need to love our children, not having favorites, and treat each child individually. Learn the love language your child responds to. Some like to be touched (hugged), others like you to talk and chat with them, some want time just to be with you, others like doing tasks together with you, and some like tokens (gifts). You need to figure out how to communicate with your child and meet their needs.
Many of Wendy’s children were born in different countries so each got a sort of nick name, the #1 son, the 1st born American, China lady (for the daughter born in China), Little Miss Sunshine, and Grace – for his grace is sufficient for me.
Besides being a mom, you also need to give time to your spouse. You can’t nag your husband. Children can tire you out, and Wendy had to learn some things about parenting. For example, you can’t fuss with your boys – tucking in shirts, slicking down hair etc. You need to give them their space and by doing that you win their respect. Not always will our children do what we want them to do, but because they have been brought up in a godly household, if the children stray, God will bring them back to Himself. We need to trust them to God.
Wendy told us that she expected two things from her children: 1) Obedience and 2) Thankfulness. Give thanks to the Lord for He is good. She and Vaughn were not looking for her children to pay them back. When we are saved we do not owe God anything.
Wendy told us if there are any broken lines of communication in our families we need to do everything we can to restore them – go to the person and apologize even if you are the wronged party. Time is short and we never know when our time is up.
She told us that they live REGRET FREE, STRESS FREE, DEBT FREE, AND HAVE YOUR LIFE IN JESUS. We are bigger because Jesus is in us.
Love our church.
Jesus is our bridegroom and Wendy smiled and told us that as women we understand what it is like to be a bride, but that concept is a bit more challenging for the men. We are the CHURCH. We are the BODY OF CHRIST. Jesus is the head and we are the body. Every part functions in the Body, from the tiniest cell to the major organs, and all are necessary. Not one part is unnecessary, and each part has it’s own function – joints, marrow, bones, etc.
Often the churches are not functioning together in unity, they are not being the Body of Christ, the Kingdom of God.
Wendy told us that her husband loves to go to Home Depot and shop, but if you go to Home Depot you can find all the individual elements that go into building a house – the nails, the wood, the tools, the wiring, etc, but until they come together, fit in with each other you only have the individual parts, you don’t have a house. Our Churches have to come together in unity to become the Body.
You can’t just love Jesus by yourself, Jesus is part of the Body, and we need the WHOLE body. We are not just here on our terms, for us, but we need a more global perspective. Wendy told us that when they were overseas she could see how God was working overseas and was thrilled to find that the churches are the same over there. Language may be different, but what she found out is that when people prayed in the Holy Spirit, that Godly language is the same in every country and language, there is only one Heavenly language.
Right now she asked us to keep her husband, Vaughn in prayer for he is over in India, and persecution is really heating up. (Heather’s note, many of the pastors that we know like Pastor Abraham and the hundreds of pastors he ministers to are suffering severe persecution and need our prayers). We have no idea what it is like to live in a country with persecution for being a Christian.
In our churches we need to be loving and supporting people in our churches, supporting the leadership. Get behind what God is doing and help out. This means not gossiping, being women of faith, and taking any problems respectfully to the leadership, not causing dissent in the church. Pray and praise and help out. God wants followers. Respect and stand behind your pastor, knowing he is following God and as he follows God, so will you be following God. Remember Jesus did what the Father told Him to do, as we are to do what Jesus wants us to do.
We want to have a clean conscience in God, to move forward and not be held back in the past. Yes, things can have happened in your life, we can’t quit and run away. Jesus is there with us in tough and good times. We need to trust Jesus, be strong and stand in faith. Sometimes when we do that it bothers those around us but we cannot live in everyone elses’ opinion. We need to get off the pedestal and love others.
This talk was a blessing and I hope it blesses you as much as it did me. After this, Wendy prayed over every person attending and we were all blessed.
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